Getting over a breakup is definitely easier said than done. I should know. I literally cried every day, multiple times a day, for about two years before the pain stopped. Two years? Yes, two years!! But we all experience pain differently. Can you recall how you handled your last breakup? Does it cause you to cringe?
My constant weeping was embarrassing, but it was needed. It was during that tragic period that I learned patience, unconditional love, and most importantly, forgiveness. You want to know how I did it? See below, the 5 steps I used to overcome a breakup.
1. Spend time loving yourself. Redirect your focus from the heartbreak to things that you enjoy. Book a trip, go to the spa, read a book, or binge on a fun series with your favorite cup of tea. Whatever makes you happy, do that.
2. Give yourself some time to grieve. Don’t rush the process. Don’t beat yourself up because you can’t ‘just get over it’! Cry, get mad, and scream if you have to. Repeat the five stages of grief until you’ve conquered acceptance. Time really does heal all wounds.
3. Be brave, open, and honest with yourself. Face the ugly truth and accept that you’re hurting. Don’t feel ashamed. It’s okay to admit that you still love your ex. It’s the only way to truly let go and move on.
4. Take accountability for your actions. Analyze your mistakes and let them serve as a reminder for when you get that phone call (because you will get that phone call). Don’t sacrifice your path to healing for more hurt. Stay strong.
5. Turn your pain into your purpose. Go through the pain and grow from it. Dig deep and let the disappointment of the failed relationship fuel you. Write a book, a song, or a script. The best creative work throughout history was born out of suffering.
Bianca Williams is an award-winning author of the Sidelined Series. Know the Plays, or get Sidelined is her signature slogan.